What is LGBT family or relationship abuse?
Domestic violence or relationship abuse is a systematic pattern of intentional intimidation that is reinforced by violence or threat of violence for the purpose of gaining or maintaining power and control over one’s partner.
See Information and Resources: Bisexual & Trans Domestic Violence, a brochure published by the Texas Council on Family Violence.
LGBT Domestic Abuse Myths and Facts
In its Information and Resources: Bisexual & Trans Domestic Violence brochure, the Texas Council on Family Violence dispels myths about abuse in LGBT relationships. Several are listed below.
- Myth: Battering/abuse does not exist in LGBT communities. It is believed to occur only in heterosexual relationships.
- Fact: Domestic violence does exist among lesbian, gay, bisexual and trans people, and in other sexual minority communities. It is not a problem limited to heterosexual relationships.
- Myth: Domestic violence only affects certain groups of sexual minority people.
- Fact: No group regardless of race, class, ethnicity, age, ability, education, politics, religion or lifestyle is free from domestic violence.
- Myth: Lesbian, bisexual, gay and trans survivors can leave abusive or violent relationships easily.
- Fact: Battering relationships rarely are only violent or abusive. Love, caring and remorse are often part of the cyclical pattern of abuse. This can leave a survivor feeling confused and ambivalent about what she or he is experiencing. Emotional or economic dependency, shame or isolation can make leaving seem impossible.